Three Rules of Friendship
October 10th 2006 05:18
friend: / 'frend/ one attached to another by affection or esteem.
The Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary defines the simple word “friend” as such. But under this simple, six-letter word lies a description of our world. Society is built upon this word. People live and die by its meaning, even nations have peace or wage war against on another with the image that this tiny word creates in the minds.
It is wide and deep as the ocean.
As the ocean is too big for us to speak about in a little and humble post, let’s look carefully, and try to examine the tiny drops.
In life, our friends are the most important figures. We laugh with them, talk to them, care for them, learn from them, listen to them, cook for them, give gifts to them, teach them, see a movie with them... We spend most of our lives with our friends, that is what they are for. We love spending time with them. Having a warm conversation with an old friend is like a massage to the mind and soul. We feel relaxed and at home when we talk to them. It is the act of talking to a friend that makes you feel this way, not the subject of conversation. You might be talking about a game of the last night or a book that you finished reading the day before, but only your friends listen to you as if you were revealing the ultimate meaning of life.
But remember, we are friends for them. Friendship is two-wayed. An Interaction.
Whether you might realize or not, but all friendships are dependant on some certain rules. Most of the time these rules will not change through the friendship. And it’s best if they remain unchanged. So, here is the tripod for every friendship:
The first leg of the tripod is trust. Every friendship is mostly based on this one. You trust in him/her, so that he/she trusts in you. If you don’t have this at the beginnig, then consider the friendship as stillborn. If you lose it along the way, then your friendship is dead.
Second one is communication. A clear and direct conversation is the best one. Don’t try to hide anything because there is an evil in hiding. A friend’s side is where you leave all your masks behind. Open up your heart.
Last one is empathy. Through trust and communication you get to know each other and some time later you will be able to know what your friend will love or not. (If you can’t, try tolerance: willingness to recognize and respect the beliefs or practices of others. And work on communication.) This will help you to build an everlasting friendship.
So, what can you add as an extra leg to the tripod of friendship?
The Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary defines the simple word “friend” as such. But under this simple, six-letter word lies a description of our world. Society is built upon this word. People live and die by its meaning, even nations have peace or wage war against on another with the image that this tiny word creates in the minds.
It is wide and deep as the ocean.
As the ocean is too big for us to speak about in a little and humble post, let’s look carefully, and try to examine the tiny drops.
In life, our friends are the most important figures. We laugh with them, talk to them, care for them, learn from them, listen to them, cook for them, give gifts to them, teach them, see a movie with them... We spend most of our lives with our friends, that is what they are for. We love spending time with them. Having a warm conversation with an old friend is like a massage to the mind and soul. We feel relaxed and at home when we talk to them. It is the act of talking to a friend that makes you feel this way, not the subject of conversation. You might be talking about a game of the last night or a book that you finished reading the day before, but only your friends listen to you as if you were revealing the ultimate meaning of life.
But remember, we are friends for them. Friendship is two-wayed. An Interaction.
Whether you might realize or not, but all friendships are dependant on some certain rules. Most of the time these rules will not change through the friendship. And it’s best if they remain unchanged. So, here is the tripod for every friendship:
The first leg of the tripod is trust. Every friendship is mostly based on this one. You trust in him/her, so that he/she trusts in you. If you don’t have this at the beginnig, then consider the friendship as stillborn. If you lose it along the way, then your friendship is dead.
Second one is communication. A clear and direct conversation is the best one. Don’t try to hide anything because there is an evil in hiding. A friend’s side is where you leave all your masks behind. Open up your heart.
Last one is empathy. Through trust and communication you get to know each other and some time later you will be able to know what your friend will love or not. (If you can’t, try tolerance: willingness to recognize and respect the beliefs or practices of others. And work on communication.) This will help you to build an everlasting friendship.
So, what can you add as an extra leg to the tripod of friendship?
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